Bondage for Beginners: The Importance of Sexual Aftercare



The first rule of bondage for beginners is to establish boundaries. If you’ve ever practiced BDSM, you’ll most likely have had a conversation with your partner to discuss what you both feel comfortable with, but also what’s not okay. What many people don’t realise is the importance of what happens after sex – the aftercare.


Sexual aftercare is a term used in the BDSM community to describe checking in with a partner and making sure everyone is feeling okay after sex play. Although necessary after BDSM, it can really make the difference to any sexual experience. Taking the time to check in with each other can enhance physicality between you both and it’s an important part of any sexual relationship.


Checking In

Bondage for beginners doesn’t mean jumping straight into the whips and chains, it’s safer to build up gradually, as your confidence grows. After each session, check in with you partner, it’s an essential part of the experience, yet often overlooked. The intensity of giving or receiving in BDSM encourages a rush of endorphins and adrenaline to the body. Afterwards, submissives can experience what is described as a ‘sub drop’, whilst dominant participants are susceptible to ‘top drop’. Once the adrenaline levels crash, you could be left feeling lethargic, dizzy, nauseous and even upset from the dramatic shift in feelings. Practicing aftercare ensures that all participants feel safe and cared for after the encounter.


Emotional Aftercare

Communication is vital when it comes to bondage for beginners. Discuss your feelings, be it positive or negative towards the experience. It’ll help you to understand each other better in the bedroom and is a form of emotional aftercare. It reassures your partner that they are cared for and their well-being remains a priority, even after orgasm. Simply asking ‘what felt good?’ or ‘next time we could…’ can be enough. It shows that how your partner feels after intimacy is as significant as the sex itself.


Physical Aftercare


After engaging in BDSM, ensure that any marks, cuts and bruises are tended too. A simple ice pack, or hot cloth can be helpful. Because of the nature of the session, you’re likely to be dehydrated, so when getting some water, make sure your partner is catered for too.

Physical aftercare can be as small as getting an extra blanket for comfort or running a bath for your significant other. Cuddling is a great way establish a supportive closeness and boost your oxytocin levels. After bondage for beginners, the experience can be a little overwhelming at first. Holding each other close can help to get rid of any inadequate feeling often associated with being a submissive and likewise, any guilty feeling a dominator may feel towards the sub. Small acts of kindness clearly show that you are taking an interest in that person’s welfare and safety, fulfilling the overall sexual experience for both of you.


Respect

No matter the circumstances, everyone deserves respect during sex. Aftercare is not acting in an unapproachable and inappropriate manner after sex. Leaving another person to feel undesirable and possibly guilty about what happened is unacceptable. With any kind of sexual encounter, including bondage for beginners, we recommend keeping it positive, open and respectful. Aftercare looks different to everyone, so make sure you ask your partner how they prefer theirs. Being on the same page plays a vital role in successful sexual aftercare.


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