Bondage for beginners: how to become confident with bondage gear



There are many different ways bondage for beginners can be introduced into a relationship. Kink and bondage gear can often be taboo subjects to discuss. But if we don’t talk about them, how do we ever expect to become confident and comfortable with it? If it wasn’t for mainstream pornography sites and Fifty Shades of Grey a lot of people wouldn’t even know what bondage gear is.

The majority of people have a kink, even if they don’t know what it is yet! Bondage gear could be yours and its nothing to be ashamed of, in fact it’s exciting. Introducing a kink into a relationship can have numerous positive effects, aside to an orgasm. Its proven to make people less neurotic, have lower stress levels and make people more conscientious.

Is bondage gear for me?

Bondage gear is for some people and not for others. It’s all about finding that confidence to decide if it is or not. There is no surprise that since it is rarely spoken about, there are a lot of misconceptions and myths around the topic. Here at Satisfied Box we have advice and tips on bondage for beginners, so let’s clear the air and establish some understanding.

To create confidence and trust between you and your partner it might be a good idea to come up with a safe word. This will help to establish boundaries and allow you to build up your bondage experience slowly. Introducing anything new in the bedroom can often be daunting, this is why it is important to talk about desires, needs, likes and dislikes. You might be thinking why is bondage so alluring? Play-struggling against restraints can build an exciting adrenaline rush, while being blindfolded heightens your senses in the rest of your body.

How should I begin?

Bondage gear is just one category within bondage discipline sadism and masochism. Bondage doesn’t always have to mean pain and dominance; it can be a very classy and sensual experience. Bondage is the practice of tying, binding and restraining your partner for yours or theirs pleasure. The first thing that comes to people’s minds are leather fetishes, gimp masks, ropes and gags. This isn’t always the case, it can be something as simple as a blind fold, handcuffs, or even ice. It can be nerve wracking to start with but as long as you follow these three tips it should give you the confidence boost you need.

Drop some hints- Many people are put off experimenting because they don’t know how to approach the subject. Ideas such as watching an erotic film in bed with your partner will help to plant the seed in their mind that it might be something they want to try.

Choose your position carefully- There is often the initial pressure to label yourselves as the dominant or the submissive. For first timers this is irrelevant, throughout experimentation you need to sample both to see which one suits you best. It is also important to remember there is a third category called a ‘switch’, it’s perfectly ok to want to be a sub on a Friday and a dom on a Saturday.

Remember to start off simple– Don’t start introducing lots of tools that can be intimidating and overcomplicate things. This way they might become a distraction rather than an enhancement. Bondage for beginner toys such as blind folds and ice cubes are a good starting point as these are often objects that you have laying around the house. Meaning you can start sampling bondage without actually having to enter a sex shop, which in itself can be scary.

Here at Satisfied Box we can help ease you into your bondage for beginner’s adventure with one of our sex toy subscription boxes. They are a great way to introduce new tools and toys into your relationship. Not knowing what you are going to receive every month gives an element of surprise and excitement, but you can be certain you’ll receive enjoyable products that will make you feel at ease and satisfied. To subscribe to one of our monthly boxes head over to our subscription page now. Or for more information about us, take a look at our Instagram.

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